Children’s Health: News, Tips & Advice for Parents https://www.sheknows.com All Things Parenting Thu, 05 Jun 2025 22:06:02 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 https://www.sheknows.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/cropped-sk-fav-icon.png?w=32 Children’s Health: News, Tips & Advice for Parents https://www.sheknows.com 32 32 149804645 Teen Depression Behaves Differently Than Adult Depression — Here's Why That’s Good News https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234888167/teen-depression-different-treatments-study/ https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234888167/teen-depression-different-treatments-study/#respond Thu, 05 Jun 2025 14:37:33 +0000 https://www.sheknows.com/?p=1234888167 The teen years can be rough and disorienting. Puberty, social media, school stress, it can all be a lot to process — a lot more than many parents might even realize. In fact, over 17 percent of teens have reported experiencing symptoms of depression, per KFF.

But a new study suggests that if teen depression is caught and treated early, there’s a better chance it won’t become a long-term issue.

Scientists at the University of Edinburgh analyzed data from more than 35,000 young people to explore how depression operates in teens compared to adults. To do this, they applied an intriguing concept borrowed from physics — specifically, how temperature affects the state of matter.

The researchers imagined the different symptoms of depression as points in a web and calculated a kind of “temperature” for this web. Higher temperatures meant the symptoms were less connected and more flexible, while lower temperatures indicated that the symptoms were tightly linked and more stable.

They found that in younger teens, symptoms of depression — like sadness, low energy, or a lack of interest in things — tend to shift more frequently, come and go, and are less predictable. In other words, they’re less likely to get stuck. In contrast, adult symptoms become more fixed and stable, making them more likely to persist and develop into long-term or chronic depression.

Another key insight from the study: boys’ symptoms tend to stabilize more quickly than girls’, leaving less time for risk or protective factors to influence their trajectory. In contrast, symptoms in teenage girls continue to fluctuate for a longer period.

Overall, this flexibility in teen depression, according to researchers, may be influenced by hormonal changes during puberty, ongoing brain development, and environmental or social factors — like school stress, friendships, and family dynamics — which are often at the heart of teen emotional struggles.

In short: Teen depression isn’t just an earlier version of adult depression — it behaves differently. And that’s actually good news. It means there is a better chance of helping young people recover before depression becomes deeply ingrained.

Neuropsychologist Dr. Sanam Hafeez said the study’s results stood out because it supports something often seen in clinical practice which is that early intervention truly matters.

“The idea that depressive symptoms are more flexible in teens makes sense, especially given the rapid brain development during adolescence,” she tells SheKnows. “The researchers’ emphasis on puberty and hormonal changes as major influences on symptom variability is well-supported. A surprising and creative element was the use of network analysis and the concept of ‘network temperature’ from physics to describe mental health patterns. It was also compelling to see that boys’ symptoms seem to stabilize faster than girls’, which could impact how early interventions are designed.” Dr. Hafeez did note the need for more detail “regarding how environmental and social stressors were measured or included,” but said that overall, “The finding that adult depression tends to be more rigid highlights the importance of addressing symptoms before they become fixed.”

Dr. Maria Grace Wolk agrees. “This study confirms what we often see in trauma work—depressive symptoms in teens are still flexible because they’re often learned responses to early stress,” Dr. Wolk tells SheKnows. Again, that’s a positive finding, because “what’s learned can be unlearned,” she says.

The study, she added, also demonstrates the importance of a teen’s environment when it comes to mental health. “Things like attachment, stress at home, or feeling unseen shape how their brain develops,” she explained. “For example, a teen who shuts down emotionally may be protecting themselves from past hurt. If we support them early—before those patterns settle in—we have a real chance to help them heal and build healthier ways to cope.”

So what are the major signs of depression in teens?

Dr. Wolk says one major red flag is lasting sadness or irritability. “This is a rough day type of mood that lingers for weeks,” she explained. “Another key sign is a loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy, like sports, music, or time with friends. Changes in sleep or appetite are also common, whether it’s sleeping too much, not sleeping at all, or noticeable shifts in eating habits.”

Teens may also show signs of low energy or struggle to concentrate, which can affect school performance or day-to-day functioning. Most importantly, Dr. Wolk says, expressions of hopelessness, self-harm, or talk of wanting to disappear should never be dismissed—these require immediate attention. “If you notice a combination of these symptoms, especially if they persist, it’s time to reach out for support,” she advises. “Early intervention can change the trajectory of a young person’s mental health.”

Why is it important to get treatment for teens with depression?

Getting treatment for teens with depression is critical because early symptoms can become more severe over time if left unaddressed, says Dr. Hafeez. “Depression during adolescence can interfere with school, friendships, and family relationships. It also increases the risk of self-harm, substance use, and suicide,” she explains. As we know, the teen brain is still developing — which means it can be more responsive to treatment and change. “Early support can help teens build healthy coping skills that last into adulthood,” Dr. Hafeez explains. “Without help, depression can become a long-term condition that’s harder to treat later on. Addressing symptoms early gives teens the best chance for recovery and a healthier future.”

What parents can do to help

Parents play a powerful role in supporting a teen’s mental health. If you’re noticing that your teen is struggling, Dr. Wolk recommends first creating a safe space for your teen to express what they’re feeling, without rushing to fix or dismiss it. Then, “Listen with curiosity, not judgment. If something seems off, trust your gut and seek professional support early,” she says.

The key, as indicated by the study, is to treat early, and treat relationally. “The earlier we intervene, the greater the chance we have to support teens in building healthier emotional patterns, before those patterns become deeply rooted,” Dr. Wolk says. “Use data, but understand the story behind each symptom. As parents, caregivers, and professionals, we have a powerful opportunity to meet teens with compassion and presence because depression symptoms are not just statistics, they are signs that something deeper needs attention, care, and connection.”

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8 Vitamins Your Teen Should Actually Be Taking, According to Pediatricians https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234885696/best-vitamins-for-teens/ https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234885696/best-vitamins-for-teens/#respond Tue, 03 Jun 2025 19:06:21 +0000 https://www.sheknows.com/?p=1234885696 Vitamins for teens have come a long way from those chalky, “fruity” Flintstones vitamins many of us Millennials had to stomach. As a parent, you want your teen to be getting the proper nutrients, vitamins, and minerals they need to thrive. While ideally your teen would be getting those from a nutritious, well-balanced diet — think fresh veggies, whole, unprocessed foods, lean protein — that’s not always possible.

As Dr. Joel “Gator” Warsh, a L.A.-based pediatrician puts it: “We live in a real world of school stress, fast food, screen time, and hormonal rollercoasters. So yes, many teens can benefit from specific vitamins or supplements — when used mindfully.”

But we’re not talking about those “fun” gummies either. When it comes to proper supplementation, Dr. Michael Glazier, Chief Medical Officer of Bluebird Kids Health, advises that because vitamins and supplements are not regulated by the FDA as closely as medications, “it is especially  important to consult your pediatrician or family practitioner when considering taking them and considering what dose to take. While some supplemental vitamins have dosing recommendations for teenagers, it is also best to consult with your physician to confirm.”

Best vitamins for teens at a glance

Daily Multivitamin: SmartyPants Teen Girl Plus Multivitamin or SmartyPants Teen Guy Plus Multivitamin, $28.50
Vitamin D3 + K2: Nature Made Vitamin D3 + K2 Softgels, $16.79
Vitamin C + Zinc: Vitamin C + Zinc by Nature’s Bounty, $10
Iron: OLLY Delightful Iron Vitamin Chewable Tablets, $14
Vitamin B: Nature Made Energy B12 Gummies, $10.79
Omega-3 Fatty Acids: Ritual Omega-3 DHA & EPA Capsules, $37
Magnesium: Nature Made High Absorption Magnesium Glycinate, $16
Probiotics:
Olly Big 10 Probiotic, $20

Vitamins for teens: what to look for

If you are buying vitamins or supplements, Dr. Glazier recommends looking for a reputable brand, since all brands are not made equally, and ideally one whose product has been reviewed by an independent third party such as the Consumerlab.com, which investigates compounds for both purity and potential contaminants.

Supplementation can help your teen, when guided by a professional and when it’s clear that the nutrients and minerals they need are not present in their diet. Dr. Warsh says he recommends vitamins for teens who:

  • Are picky eaters
  • Follow restrictive diets (vegan, dairy-free, etc.)
  • Are under chronic stress or not sleeping well
  • Struggle with skin, mood, or hormonal imbalances or chronic diseases
  • Have diagnosed deficiencies from lab work

Vitamins for teens: what to avoid

It’s worth noting that too much dosage of a vitamin can be harmful. According to Dr. Glazier, an example of potential harm from taking higher than recommended doses of a vitamin can be seen with Vitamin A. “In recommended doses Vitamin A can help with vision development and ocular (eye) health as well as support the immune system,” he explains. “Hypervitaminosis A, the state where someone is exposed to higher than recommended doses of Vitamin A, however, can cause liver damage, headaches, dizziness and visual difficulties.”

That’s why it’s a good idea to speak to a doctor before you start your teen on a new vitamin or supplement — to ensure the new supplement will get them to a healthy level of that vitamin or mineral, not push it over the edge.

Does your teen need vitamins or supplements?

According to Britta Sather, a licensed nutritionist, your teen’s supplement needs vary based on several factors:

  • Diet: Is your teen eating balanced meals with enough variety? Picky eaters or those on restrictive diets (e.g., vegan, gluten-free, dairy-free) may need support.
  • Activity Level: Highly active teens or athletes burn more energy and may lose key nutrients through sweat, such as magnesium and zinc.
  • Health Status: Does your teen have a medical condition? Chronic fatigue, frequent illness, hair loss, or mood issues may signal a nutrient deficiency. Always consult your healthcare provider if any symptoms are present.
  • Growth Stage: Rapid growth during puberty increases the body’s demand for calcium, vitamin D, protein, and iron.
  • Lab Testing: Bloodwork can reveal deficiencies (e.g., vitamin D, iron, B12). This helps tailor supplementation safely.
  • Environment & Lifestyle: Limited sun exposure, high stress, and irregular sleep can all influence nutrient status.

Bottom line: “If your teen has a varied, nutrient-rich diet and is thriving, supplements may not be necessary,” says Sather. “But in real life, small gaps are common—and supplements can help fill them when needed.”

If you’re looking for a good starting point, our team of pediatricians and nutritional experts shared a list of their recommendations for the vitamins your teen should be taking, and why.

Multivitamin

The 8 Vitamins Teens Actually Need to Take

DAILY MULTIVITAMIN

SmartyPants Teen Girl Plus Multivitamin

Both Dr. Warsh and Dr. Erin Barret, PhD, a nutritional expert, recommends a daily multivitamin, which can help fill common nutrient gaps — including vitamins A, C, D, E, key B vitamins, calcium, and magnesium — especially in teens with limited diets or busy schedules. Citing a recent national nutrition survey, Barret says teen boys and girls consistently fall short in key nutrients like vitamins A, C, D, E, calcium, and magnesium. “These nutrients are especially critical during the  teenage years, a time of rapid physical, mental, and emotional development.” (PS: This teen multivitamin from SmartyPants also comes in a version for boys.)


Vitamin D3 (with K2)

The 8 Vitamins Teens Actually Need to Take

VITAMIN D

Nature Made Vitamin D3 + K2 Softgels

“Low Vitamin D is an epidemic in teens,” says Dr. Warsh. That’s in spite of Vitamin D being a crucial vitamin that supports immune health, bone development, mood, and hormone regulation — essential for teens and their rapid growth and evolving hormones. Adds Sather: “Many teens have low vitamin D levels, particularly those living in northern regions or with limited sun exposure.”


Vitamin C + Zinc

The 8 Vitamins Teens Actually Need to Take

Vitamin C + Zinc by Nature's Bounty

Vitamin C “is helpful for immune support, especially during cold weather season or times of high stress,” says Sather. Studies have also found that zinc can reduce the duration of a cold, and experts say it’s “essential for the function of the immune system.”


Iron

The 8 Vitamins Teens Actually Need to Take

OLLY Delightful Iron Vitamin Chewable Tablets

Particularly important for menstruating girls, iron supports energy and helps prevent low iron levels,” says Barret. Adds Sather: “Teen girls and athletes may have increased iron needs due to menstruation and energy needs. Asking your healthcare provider for a blood test to look at ferritin, hemoglobin, and iron levels is recommended before supplementing.”


B Vitamins (especially B12)

The 8 Vitamins Teens Actually Need to Take

Nature Made Energy B12 Gummies

If your teen is vegan, consider supplementing with B12. “Vegan diets, in particular, do not provide Vitamin B12, since it is not found in plants,” says Dr. Glazier. “Vitamin B12  is important to our nervous system development and functioning as well as the formation of red blood cells. Strict vegans should incorporate B12 as a supplement in their diet.”


Omega-3 Fatty Acids

The 8 Vitamins Teens Actually Need to Take

Ritual Omega-3 DHA & EPA Capsules

Omega-3 supports brain development, mood regulation, and cardiovascular health. Teens who don’t eat fatty fish may benefit from a supplement,” says Sather.


Magnesium

The 8 Vitamins Teens Actually Need to Take

Nature Made High Absorption Magnesium Glycinate

Warsh recommends 100–300 mg/day of magnesium, which he says helps with anxiety, irritability, sleep, and cramps.


Probiotics

The 8 Vitamins Teens Actually Need to Take

Olly Big 10 Probiotic

Sather, Barret, and Warsh recommend taking a probiotic for maintaining a diverse microbiome to help promote gut health, immune support, skin, digestion, and mental wellness.


All our experts agree that supplements should support — not replace — a healthy, balanced diet. “Encourage your teen  to build strong nutrition habits by eating a variety of whole foods: fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, dairy or fortified alternatives, nuts, and seeds,” says Barret. “When paired with the right supplement  support, these habits lay the foundation for long-term wellness.”

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Exclusive: Sarah Michelle Gellar & Alyson Hannigan Talk Teen Independence & Health: 'If You Wanna Be Sure, Ask' https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234878479/sarah-michelle-gellar-alyson-hannigan-teen-health-exclusive/ https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234878479/sarah-michelle-gellar-alyson-hannigan-teen-health-exclusive/#respond Mon, 12 May 2025 20:39:01 +0000 https://www.sheknows.com/?p=1234878479 From teen actors to mothers of teens, Buffy the Vampire Slayer alums Sarah Michelle Gellar and Alyson Hannigan have seen it all. While they’re not slaying vampires or casting spells anymore, they’re using their platform to talk about something that may not be on parents’ radar: meningococcal disease, also known as meningitis.

After over 20 years, Hannigan and Gellar are collaborating once again, this time for a new Lifetime Original Movie brought to you by GSK’s Ask2BSure campaign called Pretty Hurts, which is all about encouraging parents of teens and young adults to start a conversation about meningitis and vaccination.

Meningitis is an infection that causes inflammation of the protective membranes that surround the brain and spinal cord, with different strains such as A, B, C, W, and Y. The most common symptoms include severe headaches, a stiff neck, light sensitivity, sleepiness, and more; and it can be life-threatening.

In fact, the numbers show that one in ten who get it will die. “It’s a crazy number,” Gellar said. “You don’t really see numbers like that. And the one in ten who contracted but live could have really severe disabilities, from brain damage to losing limbs.”

And Hannigan said herself how “enlightening” it was to learn about all the strains, saying, “When I talked to my teen’s pediatrician, it was so informative. I didn’t know that there were and that B was a separate vaccination. So just to have that conversation, have her explain it to me, it was so enlightening.”

As they pair up for this important cause, Gellar and Hannigan are also taking the time to show gratitude for their longtime friendship. During our chat, it was like watching the best of pals reminisce about everything. In fact, Gellar even said, “I went off to do I Know What You Did Last Summer, and I had never used a washing machine. [Hannigan] taught me how to use the machine on the phone.”

It’s stories like that that make you realize their friendship is full of laughs, sweet stories, and poignant moments that make you realize your childhood favorites are all grown up — and working to make life easier for fellow parents. Speaking of, both are proud moms of two with their longtime loves. Gellar and her husband, Freddie Prinze Jr, have two children together: Charlotte, born in 2009, and Rocky, born in 2012. And as for Hannigan, she and her former Buffy co-star Alexis Denisof welcomed two daughters named Satyana Marie, born in 2009, and Keeva Jane, born in 2012.

Below, see the iconic mother duo discuss everything from talking to your child’s doctor, what Buffy characters their kids adore, and how they foster their children’s independence.

Sarah Michelle Gellar and Alyson Hannigan at the UPN sessions of the Television Critics Association summer press tour at the Ritz Carlton Hotel in Pasadena, Ca. 7/16/01. Photo by Kevin Winter/Getty Images.
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SK: How do you navigate the ever-evolving changes that come with being a parent of a teenager?

Sarah Michelle Gellar: We joked that after 2020, I never wanted to hear the word pivot again. But the truth is, it’s really accurate when it comes to how we have to parent these days. It’s the wild, wild west. You know, there’s no road map. The kids that came before weren’t living in this digital age. Something worked, something didn’t work, and really to stay flexible.

Alyson Hannigan: My daughter’s 16 now, but when she was 15, 15 was my worst year, so I was like preparing myself. I just kept telling myself, these are the years that she’ll apologize to me for later. And you know what? She’s already done it. She went away and visited her cousins and wrote this wonderful email because her cousin was going through it. And she was like, ‘I am so sorry for all those eye rolls!’

SMG: Funny you say that, I’m not big on advice, but someone gave me this advice when my kids were babies. And it was the best advice I ever got, which was to add ‘for now’ to the end of every sentence. What I realized as a parent is you always have to add ‘for now’ because ‘My kids are rolling their eyes for now,’ ‘My daughter doesn’t wanna spend time with me for now,’ and ‘My son is challenging my authority for now,’ because it all that stuff will change.

SK: This campaign is all about the importance of the meningitis vaccination. What do you want parents of teens and young adults to know?

AH: This is an important subject for both of us, and we’re so happy to be partnered with GSK to raise awareness of meningococcal disease, which is meningitis. It’s an uncommon but serious disease that often has serious complications, including death, sometimes as fast as within 24 hours. So we’re here to bring awareness to Ask2Bsure.com so that parents are empowered to ask their teens’ doctor about the meningitis vaccine. Your teenagers, particularly from 16 to 23, are the most susceptible to meningitis.

SMG: You need to ask the questions. It’s very hard as a parent. There’s so much information that comes at you that you don’t even know what the questions you’re supposed to be asking are. And I think that’s the important message that we’re trying to relay: if you wanna be sure, ask. That’s the ask to be sure. Knowledge is power, and that’s how we can protect our most vulnerable youth. At this age, because you’re making such big decisions, your children are starting to transition to becoming adults, taking over some of their authority when it comes to medical, and you’re worried about other things that this may not be the first thing that even your doctor brings up right away. We’re not trying to scare people, we’re trying to say get the information, and make those decisions based on proper doctor information.

SK: Is there a specific question that you think is a good basis for parents to ask, if they’re unsure what to do in the first place?

SMG: Tell me your thoughts on the meningitis vaccination. Is my child protected? How can I learn all about it? Learn about what the complications are. Learn about how your child could be affected by it, and then make your decision based on the information that your doctor.

AH: Neither one of us has even played a doctor. So we’re just saying, make sure you ask your doctor, because it was so informative when I had this conversation with my doctor.

SMG: When you talk to your doctor, it’s just the simplest form of ‘Here’s the information, here’s how to best protect your child, and make that decision.’

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SK: I have to ask a little bit about Buffy. Have your kids seen Buffy? And if they have, are you their favorite character?

AH: Oh, good question. Mine have not.

SMG: Yeah, my daughter’s favorite character is Angel. Oh, and my son likes Spike. Go figure. I got one of each.

SK: I really love how you both have been pals for so long. Do you have any lessons from your long friendship that you use to teach your children about the importance of relationships of all kinds?

AH: I think it’s just so nice when you have friendships where it can be a year or whatever, and then we run into each other at Michael’s. And then suddenly, two hours later, we’re still in the glitter aisle like no time has passed.

SMG: When you have shared experiences, that doesn’t go away. And as you mature, you I think you learn to appreciate that in a different way.

SK: How do you foster independence with your teenagers?

AH: Well, I really love that we live in a neighborhood where they can walk places, so I’ll send them to the grocery store to get milk or butter or whatever. Just for them to navigate that world, I think, is empowering for them.

SMG: She’s rationalizing the fact that she’s not paying her children to be her assistant. [Laughs] I’m not so sure about this!

AH: They make up for it by buying candy!

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SK: Well, along with that, how do you strengthen your bond with your kids, especially in the age of social media?

AH: My kids aren’t on social media, so that’s lovely. [But] there was a short period of time when she had TikTok and she lost the privilege. It was really nice for all of us when she lost the privilege, and she realized it. She was like, ‘I can’t believe that I’m going to admit this, but it’s actually much better not having it.’

SMG: It’s walking a fine line because you don’t want them to become completely reliant on it, but at the same time, you also want them to understand. And if you make something taboo, then all they’re gonna do is sneak it. So it’s really just about opening conversations. And it goes right back to ask to be sure.

AH: It’s all about having those conversations. And if your children know they can discuss things with you, and if you can, you know, have that relationship where it’s not about judging, it’s about talking, it’s about giving answers.

SK: How has being a mom changed the way you define success both personally and professionally?

SMG: I think in our twenties, success was fully driven by our job, and that measure is completely different once you have children. But that all takes a back seat to your family and what they’re doing and how they’re feeling. Work is great and it’s fun, but it’s not all that it used to be.

AH: It’s just the million little moments that mean so much. Our family just loves being together, and even with the eye roll sprint. I think that’s how we know that we’re doing okay. We all make mistakes, but I just wanna make sure they wanna come back and visit when they’re in college.

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Gen Z Thinks Seeking Therapy Makes Them “Mentally Weak” – Despite The Generation’s Mental Health Crisis https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234873072/gen-z-mental-health-crisis/ https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234873072/gen-z-mental-health-crisis/#respond Mon, 05 May 2025 23:00:00 +0000 https://www.sheknows.com/?p=1234873072 Mental health awareness has come a long way in recent years, with platforms, advocates, and conversations shedding light on its importance. Yet, despite this progress, stigma surrounding therapy remains deeply ingrained—especially among Gen Z, the very generation often heralded for their openness in discussing mental health struggles online. According to findings from BetterHelp’s State of Stigma Report, which surveyed over 16,000 individuals across 23 countries, nearly 37% of Gen Z view seeking counseling as a sign of “mental weakness.”

This contrasts sharply with preceding generations, where only 22% of respondents—spanning millennials, Gen X, and Baby Boomers—share the same viewpoint. The report highlights a puzzling contradiction that exists amidst a growing mental health care crisis: although 73% of Americans acknowledge the critical role mental health support plays in overall well-being, societal attitudes, stereotypes, and misinformation continue to act as roadblocks for many, especially young people.

At a time when Gen Z faces mounting systemic challenges, skyrocketing levels of anxiety (they are more than 2x as likely as Boomers to experience mild to moderate anxiety and almost 4x as likely to experience severe anxiety), and depression, and unprecedented digital pressures, this pervasive stigma risks deepening the barriers to accessing care. Below, we explore the disconnect between Gen Z’s outward mental health advocacy and their reservations around therapy, highlighting the different factors at play and what can be done to help this particular generation overcome fears and misconceptions about therapy and seek the support they need.

Cultural and Social Factors 

Generation Z (Gen Z) includes individuals born between 1995 and 2012. As mentioned above, while this generation is open to discussing their mental health struggles, there’s a stigma surrounding actually seeking help. But first, let’s break down why Gen Z is more depressed and anxious than prior generations. Essentially, a myriad of political, economic and social trends seem to be the source (climate change, rising cost of living), with globally, more people are likely to start with personal tools, like mindfulness, rather than professional support.

For example, according to the State of Stigma Report, social media platforms have become informal spaces for mental health conversations making people feel more connected and informed. However, for many, it’s easier to talk online than in therapy. This is the generation that grew up with the internet, and while that can lead to increased social outreach, it also leaves room for more bullying, and less physical contact. And according to the CDC, social isolation and loneliness are widespread problems in the U.S., posing a serious threat to our mental and physical health. Here are some stats to consider:

•Among Gen Z, those most online are also more likely to prefer group therapy over individual and may seek out more spiritual guidance more so than other groups.

•People who spend 4+ hours daily on social media are 57% more likely to believe mental health care fails to improve wellbeing compared to people who abstain from social media.

•They are also almost twice as likely to feel judged for seeking help, 45% more likely to believe therapy rarely solves personal problems compared to people who abstain, and more likely to discuss mental health problems online than with a therapist compared to those spending less time on social media.

The Stigma Around Therapy

According to BetterHelp’s Report, stigma can lead to social isolation, low self-esteem, increased stress, and difficulty in daily productivity. Stigma comes from a lack of understanding and directly affects individuals with mental illness but also the loved ones who support them, often including their family members. Often, people avoid or delay seeking treatment due to concerns about being treated differently or fears of losing their jobs and livelihood, according to the American Psychiatric Association. There are a number of reasons, someone may delay or not seek help at all.

These include inaccurate media portrayals, cultural beliefs, historical mistreatment of the mentally ill, lack of mental health knowledge, which contributes to the idea that people with mental illness are dangerous and incompetent, and economic barriers i.e. health costs, limited funding, insurance coverage, etc, and fear of discrimination from friends, family, an employer, or even a healthcare professional due to someone’s mental health struggles. Forty percent of Gen Z say cost is the main reason they don’t prioritize their mental health, while 29% say they don’t think it will help or don’t have the time. Additionally, 37% of Gen Z say their therapist doesn’t understand them, or they don’t trust their therapist (33%).

Shifting the Narrative & Debunking Misconceptions

While strides have been made in ending the stigma around mental health, there is still much work that need to be done. Through education and ongoing support, BetterHelp aims to help communities overcome fears and misconceptions about mental health. Seeking mental health treatment is an act of bravery, and overcoming the fear of stigma is crucial for healing and well-being.

BetterHelp’s inaugural State of Stigma findings highlight the importance of ending the bias around mental health and increasing mental health literacy. BetterHelp users around the world are proof of what’s possible with 82% of users saying they would recommend their therapist to someone else and 72% saying they saw a reduction in symptoms.* For parents, it’s important to remember that if your child is struggling, creating a safe space where they can talk about is the first step to addressing their mental health needs and helping them on their journey to get proper mental health care.

*These results reflect self-reported data collected using PHQ-9 and GAD-7 scores. Individual outcomes may vary.

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Chrissy Teigen Had 'No Idea' About This Aspect of Type 1 Diabetes Until Her Son's Diagnosis https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/videos/1234872650/chrissy-teigen-miles-diabetes-diagnosis-surprise/ https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/videos/1234872650/chrissy-teigen-miles-diabetes-diagnosis-surprise/#respond Tue, 29 Apr 2025 16:12:46 +0000 https://www.sheknows.com/?post_type=pmc_top_video&p=1234872650 For Chrissy Teigen and John Legend, their son’s Type 1 diabetes diagnosis last summer came as a shock. Miles, their super-active, sports-loving 6-year-old, “didn’t show any symptoms,” Teigen tells SheKnows. “We were just thrown into this whirlwind of chaos, trying to learn everything under the sun as quickly as we could.”

It started when Miles came down with a case of shigella, a bacterial infection that was going around his football camp. “His body took it really hard,” Teigen recalls. “A lot of [the other kids] just had stomach cramping and didn’t feel very well for a few days. Miles came home from camp and was just doubled over in real pain.” It was unusual enough that Teigen and Legend took Miles to the hospital, where he stayed for three days. Eventually, the couple noticed that doctors were giving Miles a lot of blood tests — which seemed out of the ordinary.

It was Miles’ pediatrician who explained that there might be an underlying issue. “He said, ‘We feel like his blood is telling us something,'” Teigen remembered. “‘He is here because of this sickness that he got at camp, but we are definitely fighting something else here too.’ And so all signs pointed to him having Type 1.”

Teigen’s father and many family members on her mother’s side have Type 2 diabetes, but the model admits she “knew nothing” about Type 1. “I had no idea how all-encompassing it is to have Type 1,” she says. “I thought it was manageable by [monitoring your] diet… I had no idea that it follows you everywhere, at all times of the day.”

Managing Miles’ Type 1 has now become a major part of the family’s life, and Teigen says it affects their other children — Luna, 9, Esti, 2, and Wren, 22 months — in different ways. “We might be doing bedtime with Luna, and I feel like her vibe is a little off,” Teigen explains. “Sometimes I’ll have to bring it up, like, ‘Is it Miles? Do you feel like Miles is getting a lot of attention from Mommy and Daddy lately? … and then we just hug and talk about it.”

Luna also gets frustrated when she doesn’t get “tokens” like Miles does — the system the family uses to reward their kids for doing chores or having good behavior. “She’s like, ‘I don’t get a token for for putting on my device or pricking my finger!'” Teigen explains. They rely on open communication to make sure everyone feels heard. “By them being so open about their emotions with us, we can figure out ways to make it better for everybody.” (Wren and Esti, meanwhile “just don’t care about anything,” Teigen laughs. “They think it’s so cool… they get to bring out their little plastic doctor kits when we’re mixing the insulin. They’re just all about it.”)

Of course, the one dealing with the brunt of the diagnosis is Miles. “He’s constantly on the move, always running around, always in the pool, always catching a football, always playing basketball,” Teigen says. “He’s just so active. And then all of a sudden, we had something that would have to interrupt that a little bit, all the time.” They’ve had to encourage Miles to be more vocal about how he’s feeling. “He knows Mommy and Daddy are a little bit more worried all the time,” Teigen explains. “So if he’s feeling sleepy or sick or nauseous, Mommy and Daddy have to know about that.”

Miles’ biggest concern? That he wouldn’t be able to play sports anymore. “That was a huge deal for him,” Teigen remembers. “And we were like, ‘Absolutely you can.'” Now, she says, Miles gets “so excited” whenever he sees or meets someone else with diabetes — like Nick Jonas, who the family connected with soon after Miles’ diagnosis last summer. “What could be a better introduction to the T1D world, than than someone like that?” Teigen says.

That’s why Teigen and Miles have been vocal about his diagnosis, including working with the pharmaceutical company Sanofi and their Screen for Type 1 movement to promote early screening for Type 1 diabetes. “It has been so game-changing to get to be spokespeople for this,” Teigen says, “because it really is nice to see yourself reflected in somebody else. I know it matters so much to him when he sees somebody else [with Type 1].”

Teigen also knows firsthand how important it is to know your risk for Type 1. “Early detection is key,” she says. “We had no time to prepare. If we would have had, I’m not kidding, a week — [it] would have made a difference, much less a year.” And even after Miles was diagnosed, Teigen and Legend weren’t encouraged to screen their other children — “so we really want to get the word out there that people should talk to their doctors about screening, and just so you don’t get blindsided by something.”

Speaking out about Miles’ diagnosis has also had another positive side effect: creating a massive network of support for their son as he navigates the still-fresh diagnosis. “He’s surrounded by the coolest, most supportive village ever,” Teigen says. “Yes, our family, but also encompassing all the people that know about our family and know about him. It’s really cool.”

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Depression Is Up By 60%, Including Among Teens. What Can Parents Do? https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234871698/depression-increased-60-percent-help-teens/ https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234871698/depression-increased-60-percent-help-teens/#respond Fri, 25 Apr 2025 20:42:31 +0000 https://www.sheknows.com/?p=1234871698 Even among mental health professionals, the CDC’s recent news came as a shock. In a study released earlier this month, the agency reported that depression among US teens and adults has increased 60 percent in the last decade — and that young people, ages 12 to 19, were the age group most likely to report current symptoms of depression.

If you’re alarmed by those numbers, you’re not alone. “I’m not surprised that there was a drastic increase [in depression], although I was surprised that it was 60 percent,” Heather Hagen, MS, LMFT, Executive Director of Clinical Outpatient Services at Newport Healthcare tells SheKnows. “Sixty percent was, I think, surprising to most of us in the field.”

According to Hagen, there are a few reasons why depression is increasing among adolescents. “The pandemic certainly exacerbated mental health challenges for many people in the US, especially for our young people,” she said. “Those are social, formative years.” To be isolated from friends in and outside of school contributed to feelings of isolation and loneliness, which are risk factors for depression.

Social media also contributes to loneliness, Hagen says, by decreasing the amount of “meaningful in-person connections” that teens have while encouraging potentially harmful comparisons. Technology also keeps us constantly connected to the news cycle, increasing visibility of global issues. While it’s good to stay informed, we can also “be inundated with all of the heavy things that are going on, inequality and climate change, and all the wars across the world,” Hagen says. Especially for teens who feel they have limited ability to enact change, that can be a heavy burden.

For parents looking to help, one of the first steps is knowing the signs of depression in teens. According to Hagen, these can include:

  • Anger
  • Irritability
  • Feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or emptiness
  • No longer finding joy in things they enjoy
  • Struggling with concentration, making decisions, or remembering things
  • Changes in sleep or appetite
  • Low self-esteem
  • Suicidal thoughts

As a parent looking to help, Hagen has a few recommendations. The first: “Have an open dialogue with your kids and have a strong connection with them,” she says. The idea is to create a relationship of trust and safety with your teen, so they know they can come to you with any struggles.

And, if they do come to you with a problem, your reaction is key. “As parents, we naturally come in as problem solvers,” Hagen explains. But with many kids — and especially with teens — “that’s not always what they want,” she points out. “The majority of the time our kids just want to be heard.” She suggests directly asking your teen how they want your support. “Come from a place of, ‘I’m here for you, and is this a conversation where you want me to just listen, or are you looking for a solution?'”

She also recommends modeling healthy behaviors, like social media or technology boundaries, and normalizing getting help for mental health. “If the child sees you, sees you taking care of yourself and making sure that you have the support that you need, it gives them permission to do the same,” she explains. (PS: Here are tips on how to find a therapist for your teen.)

The most important thing is maintaining that open and honest relationship with your teen. “The number one thing is really about the connection with your children,” Hagen emphasizes, “that they believe that they can come to you regardless of what it is.” And when they do come to you with a problem, asking them whether you should listen or help them fix it — and reassuring them. “Your first reaction is going to be, ‘Thank you so much for trusting me,'” Hagen explains. “‘We can get through this together.'”

If you, your child, or anyone you know is struggling with mental health, depression, or thoughts of suicide, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Hotline or visit their website for more resources.

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Gen Z Resurfaced the Ice Bucket For a New Cause — And It's Going Viral Again https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234871811/ice-bucket-challenge-mental-health/ https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234871811/ice-bucket-challenge-mental-health/#respond Fri, 25 Apr 2025 20:40:06 +0000 https://www.sheknows.com/?p=1234871811 If you were around the Internet in 2014, you probably remember the ice bucket challenge. You know the drill: people dumping water on themselves, posting it online, and tagging their friends to do the same, all for the cause of raising money for ALS research. What you probably didn’t expect was the ice bucket challenge making a comeback 11 years later, thanks to Gen Z’s passion for mental health — and once again, it’s working.

The ice bucket challenge resurfaced at the University of South Carolina, where students in the Mental Illness Needs Discussion (MIND) club began using it to raise money for Active Minds, a nonprofit organization focused on mobilizing youth and addressing mental health stigma. That was back in March. As of late April, the #SpeakYourMIND hashtag has over 200,000 posts and has garnered support from celebrities like James Charles and the hosts of the Today show, who did it live on-air. To date, the new ice bucket challenge has raised over $340,000 for Active Minds, far surpassing the initial $500 goal set by USC students, per NBC.

And while that’s a major accomplishment, the ice bucket challenge is also helping to raise awareness around mental health and chip away at the stigma that still surrounds it. Because of that, experts believe this kind of movement can make a real difference. “I actually just saw it yesterday on my own social media feed,” Heather Hagen, MS, LMFT, Executive Director of Clinical Outpatient Services at Newport Healthcare tells SheKnows. “I’m personally thrilled. Anything that we can do to call awareness to the mental health struggle is a good thing.”

Brett Curtis, the director of community fundraising and events at Active Minds, agrees, telling NBC that donations were “secondary” to the movement. “This was a chance for us to support a group of students, and that’s always been our mission,” he told the outlet, adding that he’s excited “to see it keep going for as long as it does.”

Hagen notes that social media movements like this can also remind people who are dealing with mental health struggles that they’re not alone — and maybe even inspire them to reach out for support. “Being doused with ice cold water takes a little bit of bravery, for sure,” she explains. “We’re hoping that people can sort of translate that bravery into, ‘I am going to do that hard thing. I’m going to make that phone call and see about getting some support for myself. I’m going to call that friend, and when they ask how I’m doing, I’m going to be honest this time about it.'”

It’s also a good reminder that as much as we talk about social media being harmful for teens’ mental health, it can also be used for good — by creating and connecting a community around a worthy cause.

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Teen Anxiety Has Doubled Since 2020. What Can Parents Do To Bring It Back Down? https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234842528/teen-anxiety-how-to-help/ https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234842528/teen-anxiety-how-to-help/#respond Fri, 28 Feb 2025 16:53:16 +0000 https://www.sheknows.com/?p=1234842528 It’s no secret that teen anxiety is on the rise, part of the teen mental health crisis causing concern across the country. And while some mental health issues and symptoms, like loneliness, have been slowly rising for decades, anxiety in particular saw a dramatic spike during the pandemic. Research from 2021 found that teen anxiety doubled during the height of COVID-19, with 1 in 5 teens reporting elevated anxiety symptoms, and it’s remained high ever since. Data released in the 2024 National Survey of Children’s Health found that 16.1 percent of teens (ages 12-17) were diagnosed with an anxiety disorder in 2023, representing a 61 percent increase since 2016.

“During and since the pandemic, there has absolutely been an increase in anxiety among teens,” Samantha Quigneaux, LMFT, the national director of family therapy services at Newport Healthcare, tells SheKnows. She’s seen it firsthand in her own work, where teens have been expressing feelings of “overwhelm, stress, confusion, fear, and/or hopelessness.” Dr. Rostilav Ignatov, the chief medical officer at The Haven Detox, says he’s seen the same trend. “The clinical practice that I observe has experienced a notable rise in adolescents with anxiety disorders, most of which pertain to their academic achievements, self-imposed social withdrawal, and apprehensions about what lies ahead,” he tells SheKnows.

When you have a teen in your own home, the daunting stats on mental health become personal. We’re all asking the same questions: why are our teens so anxious? What red flags should we be looking for? And, as parents, how can we help?

What’s Fueling the Spike in Teen Anxiety?

It’s no wonder that the pandemic was so hard on teens — there’s not much in their lives that wasn’t thrown into flux. “Disruption of daily routines, social isolation and distancing, academic pressures and changes in methods of learning, uncertainty about the future”: Quigneaux lists all of these as factors that “strongly contributed to heightened stress and anxiety levels” among teens. “Those ‘unprecedented times’ also left our youth with disrupted critical social and emotional learning environments,” she explains. “This has led to them having to navigate their teen years and young adulthood with [fewer] skills and emotional resources in our ever-changing world.”

Beyond that is simply the enormous amount of pressure that teens today are living with. “There’s tremendous pressure for teenagers to perform to the best of their ability in school, get involved in extracurricular activities, and have the perfect social media presence,” Dr. Ignatov explains.

And social media alone can do a number on teens’ mental health. “Social media creates an increased awareness of what is going on in the world,” Janel Coleman, a licensed psychotherapist at Madison Square Psychotherapy, tells SheKnows. “People are bombarded with difficult news, unrealistic appearances, and highlight reels throughout the day.” There’s a feeling of inescapability when it comes to the stressful news cycle and world that teens are growing up in, plus a sense of “relentless competition and the anxiety of being ‘outdone,'” Dr. Ignatov says.

Teen Anxiety Symptoms to Look Out For

The experts we spoke to agreed that one sign of anxiety (or other mental health issues) is major changes in your teen’s habits or behaviors. “Teens are known to be emotional and moody, but it is important to be aware of significant shifts in behaviors,” Coleman says. “This can look like avoidance of school work or social events with friends, increased anger or irritability, substance use, and consistent reporting of physical health issues, like stomachaches and headaches.” According to our experts, other symptoms of anxiety in teens may include:

Restlessness

Anxious dread

Lack of concentration

Social withdrawal

School avoidance

Excessive worrying

Other physical health symptoms, like fatigue and difficulty sleeping

How to Help a Teen With Anxiety

Helping a teen with anxiety starts with providing a supportive environment and validating your teen’s feelings and emotions, Quigneaux says. “Being an emotionally safe space is critical to support a teen.” That means having check-ins with your teen, Coleman adds, to talk about “what is creating anxiety or stress in their lives.” Of course, they might not always be up for talking about their emotions with their parents — and that’s OK. This is about showing you’re there for them if and when they ever need to talk. Plus, it gives you a window (no matter how small) into their lives.

“While it is developmentally appropriate for teens to give more attention to their peers,” Coleman confirms, “maintaining parental connections can allow for awareness of those behavioral shifts and when extra support might be needed.” She recommends having these check-ins during shared meals or family activities “in a way that acknowledges the emotional reality of the teen and other family members.” We also have more tips for checking in with your teen about mental health (and actually getting somewhere) if you need them.

You can also help by encouraging and modeling healthy habits and emotional regulation skills. These can include things like exercise, mindfulness, journaling, confiding in loved ones, or seeking support from a mental health professional — which all of our experts recommended if your teens symptoms aren’t improving. “It is important to seek professional assistance as early intervention makes it easier to manage anxiety in the long run,” Dr. Ignatov explains.

Tackling anxiety is a challenge at any age, but it’s especially tough for teens in today’s chaotic, stressful world. Helping your teen manage their mental health starts by opening up the conversation — even if it might feel awkward at first! — and making sure your teen knows they have you to lean on and confide in, no matter what they’re going through.

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42 Game-Changing Skincare Brands for Teens https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/slideshow/2447967/skincare-brands-for-teens/ https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/slideshow/2447967/skincare-brands-for-teens/#respond Sat, 22 Feb 2025 00:35:47 +0000 https://www.sheknows.com/?post_type=pmc-gallery&p=2447967 If you purchase an independently reviewed product or service through a link on our website, SheKnows may receive an affiliate commission.

Thanks to TikTok, teens are much more well-versed in curating the perfect skincare routine than we were as adolescents. That also means they’ve probably been asking you to buy them beauty products to replicate that glow of their favorite celebs or online influencers (whom you might not even recognize). If you’re shopping for your middle schooler or high schooler, consider saying yes. An essential life skill is carrying out a good, healthy skincare routine, and it’s it’s never too early to get started!

Best Skincare Brands for Teens at a Glance

Best Overall: Starface
Best Dermatologist Guided: Evereden
Best Cleansing Balms: Banila Co.
Best Skincare Sets: Erly Sleepover Bundle
Most Popular: E.l.f.
Most Effective: Olay
Best for Targeted Treatments: First Aid Beauty
Best Affordable: The Inkey List
Best Influencer-Approved: Bubble Skincare
Best Dermatologist-Created: BTWN
Best Celebrity-Owned: florence by mills
Best Sustainable: Cocokind
Best for Teen Boys: JB SKRUBB
Best Customized: Glossier
Best for Teen Athletes: Rally
Best Sunscreen Brand: SuperGoop!
Best Korean Skincare: Glow Recipe
Best Splurge: Skin Pharm

It’s true that we only had a handful of healthy skincare options to choose from when we were 13 if you wanted to zap zits (does a certain grapefruit face scrub stir up any memories?). Now, there are more effective and affordable options than ever targeted for the unique needs of teen skin. Bonus: The packaging on these newer teen skincare brands are super IG-worthy, so they make for the perfect medicine cabinet #shelfie. You won’t even mind them cluttering the bathroom counter every morning. They’re that cute, trust us.

As for teen skincare product lines, there’s Bubble, a nontoxic skincare brand for teens, that makes taking care of acne actually fun — so much so, that we wish we had this brand in our younger years. The Inkey List boils things down to simple ingredients without all the fillers, keeping costs down. BTWN is also filling the gap in the young adult skincare world with eco-friendly, socially conscious, and gender-neutral products created by a dermatologist, no less. There’s a laundry list of other teen skincare brands (many available on Amazon and Target), so read on to find the best brands to stock your teenager’s bathroom with (and even your own bathroom — there is no age limit on these products!).

Our mission at SheKnows is to empower and inspire women, and we only feature products we think you’ll love as much as we do. Target is a SheKnows sponsors, however, all products in this article were independently selected by our editors. Please note that if you purchase something by clicking on a link within this story, we may receive a small commission of the sale.

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It's Time To Stop Rolling Our Eyes at Our Teens' Relationships https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234823833/teen-romantic-relationships-matter/ https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1234823833/teen-romantic-relationships-matter/#respond Fri, 14 Feb 2025 15:15:00 +0000 https://www.sheknows.com/?p=1234823833

Let’s face it: when your teen starts gushing about their latest crush, it’s tempting to dismiss it off as just another passing phase. You might be tempted to say, “Oh honey, you’ll move on soon enough,” or “Trust me, this is just puppy love.” But here’s the thing: what seems small to us can feel monumental to them. That so-called “puppy love” might hit your teen like a tidal wave of emotions, and how we respond as parents plays a crucial role in whether they feel validated and supported or dismissed and belittled.

Why Teen Relationships Matter

Remember your first crush? We’ve all been there, feeling like that person was the most important person on the planet. Sure, time and perspective teach us otherwise, but for our teens, these relationships are huge. They’re a training ground for future relationships, helping teens figure out what they want (and don’t want) in a partner.

They’re learning to communicate, to trust, and to set boundaries. By brushing off their emotions, we’re sending a message that their feelings are unimportant. And that can have a lasting impact on their self-esteem and ability to form healthy relationships in the future. Spoiler alert: that’s not the vibe we’re going for.

Think about it this way: how would you feel if someone minimized your big emotions? Imagine sharing something deeply personal only to hear, “Oh, that’s nothing. You’ll get over it.” Ouch, right? That’s exactly how our teens feel when we dismiss their romantic experiences.

There’s another consequence to consider, too: that approach can backfire. Teens might feel like they can’t come to us for advice or support when things get tough. Instead of building an open, trusting relationship, we risk adding one more wall between us—something they definitely don’t need. Teens already deal with enough walls; they don’t need one more between them and their parents.

Why Do We Dismiss Teen Love?

Before exploring how to better support our teens, let’s talk about why we tend to dismiss their relationships. Often, it stems from a place of love and experience. We’ve been through breakups and heartaches, and we know that most teen romances don’t last forever. But here’s the catch: knowing that doesn’t matter. For your teen, this is happening now, and it’s very real.

Sometimes, it’s also about our own fears. We might worry about them getting hurt or making mistakes. Dismissing their relationships can feel like a way to shield them from pain, but it doesn’t build resilience or help them navigate the ups and downs of love. In fact, it does the opposite.

How to Show Up for Your Teen’s Romantic Life

So, how do we do better? How do we support our teens without rolling our eyes or minimizing their emotions?

Validate Their Feelings: Instead of saying, “This won’t last,” try something like, “I can see how much this person means to you.” A little acknowledgment goes a long way in making them feel heard and respected.

Stay Curious: Check in and open-ended questions like, “What do you like about them?” or “How do they make you feel?” You’re not prying; you’re showing genuine interest in something that matters to them. Plus, it’s a great way to get to know the person they’re spending so much time with.

Share Your Own Stories (With Limits): Talking about your first crush or heartbreak can normalize their feelings. Just don’t go overboard with the details, because this is about them, not you. And please, skip the “when I was your age” speeches — it’s never as endearing as we think.

Teach Them About Healthy Relationships: Use the opportunity to discuss respect, boundaries, and communication. These lessons are invaluable and can shape how they approach relationships for years to come. For example, if you notice something concerning, gently ask, “I’m sorry they made you feel guilty for spending time with your friends. Do you think that’s okay?” These conversations help them recognize healthy and unhealthy dynamics.

Be Their Safe Space: If things don’t work out, resist the urge to say, “I told you so.” Instead, offer comfort and reassurance with a simple “I’m here for you.” Heartbreak is tough, but it’s also essential for growth. Your job is to be their soft place to land.

The Bigger Picture

Supporting your teen’s romantic relationships isn’t just about this moment. It’s about building a foundation of trust and open communication that will serve them (and you) well into adulthood. When teens feel like you’re in their corner, they’re more likely to turn to you for guidance, whether it’s about relationships, school, or life challenges.

It’s also a chance to help them develop emotional intelligence. By taking their feelings seriously, you’re teaching them to do the same. They learn to value their emotions and approach relationships with empathy and respect.

Yes, your teen’s love life might feel like drama central or your grandma’s favorite telenovela, but it’s also an incredible opportunity to strengthen your relationship with each other. By showing up with empathy, curiosity, and maybe even a dash of humor, you’re teaching them that they deserve respect and understanding in all their relationships.

So, next time your teen gushes about their crush or cries over a breakup, remember: those feelings are real, even if the relationship doesn’t last. And who knows? That “fleeting” romance might just be their first step toward understanding love, heartache, and everything in between. Your role is simple but powerful: be there, listen, and never underestimate the importance of a teenage heart.

Welcome to Family Reset, a monthly column and must-go destination for all parents seeking guidance (and grasping for some sanity) in the wild adventure of raising children. Behind this compelling and candid read is New York psychotherapist, writer, editor, and “mommyyy” Zuania Capó, (or just call her Z), a compassionate, multicultural, and integrative therapist passionate about supporting families to thrive and connect. Armed with a touch of wisdom, insightful tips, a witty spirit, tons of honesty, and a sprinkle of humor, she is here to help you navigate the complexities of parenthood while prioritizing your well-being.

Family Reset is not just a source of advice; it’s a vibrant community where parents can find inspiration, share their stories, and realize they are not alone in the exhilarating roller coaster ride of parenting. Have questions? Want answers? Get ready to hit that reset button and connect with Z at zcmentalhealth@zuaniacapo.com.

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